Welcome back to our short series “Galit…Bati!” Kahapon, tiningnan natin kung ano ang mabuting gawin kapag galit tayo. Paano naman kung sa atin galit ang mahal natin sa buhay? Let’s listen and learn.

Sa halip, maging mabait kayo at maawain; magpatawad kayo sa isa’t isa tulad ng pagpapatawad sa inyo ng Diyos dahil kay Cristo.

Mga Taga-Efeso 4:32

Natural na magalit tayo, lalo na sa marriage. Minsan, disappointed o frustrated ang asawa natin dahil meron tayong hindi magandang nagawa o nasabi, and those feelings could lead to anger. It’s important to seek God’s guidance on how to handle anger when it is directed to us.

Unang-una, reflect. Ano ba ang naging isyu? Ano ang dahilan kung bakit nagalit ang ating asawa? Masakit mang aminin, pero baka tayo talaga ang may atraso. Hurtful ang nasabi natin, or we broke a promise. Maybe it’s not what you said but HOW you said something, kaya nagalit si partner. Kung alam natin na mali tayo, humingi tayo ng tawad. Be humble. 

Secondly, good communication starts with a listening ear and a gentle tongue: “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1, NIV). Instead of escalating a disagreement to an argument, and an argument to a fight, pause muna. Sometimes, we must let our spouse speak at wag tayo mag-interrupt o mag-defend sa ating sarili. Or we might need to wait a bit until we (and our spouse) are calmer before talking.

Seek God’s guidance on when and how to approach your spouse. At pag ready na kayo mag-usap nang maayos, address each other with love, forgiveness, and respect. Mas importante na maayos ang relationship ninyong mag-asawa kaysa sa kung sino ang tama o mali, o sino ang unang nag-sorry.

Pero tandaan na while normal na makaramdam ng galit, hindi normal ang physical, emotional, o verbal abuse. Kung ang words at actions ng iyong asawa ay umaabot na sa pang-aabuso, seek help from trusted family members, friends, or people in church.

When faced with anger from your spouse, be humble at gentle. Ang pakikinig sa iyong asawa habang naglalabas siya ng sama ng loob at ang pag-respond with love helps improve communication. Better communication can increase our empathy and respect for each other, and help us para ma-honor natin ang Panginoon.

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